Growing power is a process of deepening our knowledge of ourselves, this world, and our place in it.
I think about growing our own power as something that we tend to something that we must grow and nurture, not unlike a garden. We know that with a garden, it’s impossible to grow something in unhealthy soil. It is also impossible to get growth from a plant if there are many weeds around it or overgrowth. We understand the importance of cutting things back to allow our plan to our rows or our flower to bloom.
It’s not that much different than with our own power, as in, we have to plant our power and nurture it and grow it in soil that is healthy. This healthy soil our inner self talk, our inner self worth and sense of confidence. It is also our health and well being and our own ability to embody all that makes us human, our emotions, our ego, and our soul.
No one would ever criticize a rose for blooming in the sunshine. And we should not criticize ourselves from doing the same.
3:36 To continue with this analogy of power being like a flower we’re trying to grow in a garden:
Then we can see that the first thing we must do is make room for this flower to grow. We need to clear out whatever is inside us that might overcrowd our budding power, grudges, and long held resentments towards ourselves and others take up a whole lot of room inside of our bodies and minds. One of the first things we must do is clear out these old grudges and resentments. We have to learn to forgive ourselves and others. Forgiveness does not mean accepting or advocating for the actions of others or allowing them to happen again. Forgiveness simply means releasing that person’s hold on you, that space that they’re taking up inside you.
12:50 A second way that we can make much more room inside of ourselves for our power to grow, is to take good care of your own shadow side.
What I mean by this is that as you come into your own power, not only will your lights grow, but so will your shadow. The more you speak your truth in the world, the more you show up, the more spotlight is on you. Whether that’s within your own family, or your workplace, or your neighborhood or some larger venue. Growing your power translates into being seen in the world and being seen in the world means both light and shadow. It is better for you to get to know your own shadow intimately, then to give that power over to other people, to point out your shadows when you’re least expecting it.
15:25 A third thing we can do on our journey to reclaiming our power is to go on what I call a reclamation journey.
All throughout our lives, we give pieces of our power away to other people, usually in exchange for some kind of validation or sense of self worth, or even maybe just a little bit of authority. We go out into our lives and we take these little pieces of our power and we trade them like currency. We do it all the time with authority figures. teachers, parents, bosses, we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. But oftentimes we say to ourselves subconsciously, if I have to give away just a little piece of my power in order to get this promotion or this relationship, then it’s okay. But it’s not okay. Not anymore.
20:30 And always remind yourself when this pack gets difficult, that it is also a great privilege to have this opportunity to grow our power and voice in a world where so many people have neither.
Own your own stories and your own opportunities here for what you do here will help the energy change and shift throughout the world. Nobody else can empower you. You must do it from within and it takes the steady work of toiling in the soil, working with the soil and planting this power, allowing it to grow naturally.