Learning to Accept our Authentic Self When We are Imperfect – Guest Post by Matt Welsh
One of my life goals is to be authentic.
Initially, this may seem or sound simple. Being authentic simply means to be yourself, speak your truth, express your needs, or be true to yourself. However, one of the hardest parts about being authentic is recognizing that I am not perfect. Thus, part of being authentic is giving myself permission to be imperfect.
This has been a struggle for me at times. I strive for perfection, have high goals for myself, and push myself beyond what most would believe to be comfortable thresholds. The advantages of this are that I have become extremely disciplined with how I spend my time and my behavior, I often achieve my goals, and when I fall short I of my goals I am still able to feel good about my results.
However, the down side of striving for perfection is that when I fall short in ANY aspect of my life, then I am at risk of not being happy with myself or feeling unsatisfied.
Additionally, I can be excessively hard on myself when I don’t reach my goals. Further, I often put so much pressure on myself that it is difficult for me to enjoy the inevitable ups and downs, twists and turns, and zigs and zags that come with living life and being a human.
Part of the antidote for this is recognize that in order for me to be authentic, I must give myself permission to be imperfect and accept myself for who I am at this moment in time and accept the current circumstances of my life.
This does not mean lowering standards or not trying to change my circumstances. It is simply accepting where I am at in this moment, feeling good about the progress I have made in some areas of your life and recognizing that you would prefer to change other areas of your life. This can also help you find meaning and purpose regardless of your circumstances. Helpful thoughts to aid in this process include thinking:
- My self-worth encompasses more than my external circumstances (e.g., weight, financial worth, career, relationship status)
- My invisible self is shining right now and worthy of love
- I am going to give myself permission to be happy, even if everything is not exactly how I would like it to be in my life right now
- I may not prefer my current circumstances, but I am willing to accept them.
- Plus, when we fight our current circumstances, then that often leads to unhelpful thoughts such as:
I should/must/need to have more money, improved relationships, or better body in order to be happy, let myself relax and accept myself for who I am.
This distracts us from being in tune with our higher self or spirit. Plus, our self worth and attraction is often viewed by others to be completely different than how we view ourselves when we are demanding perfection. Finally, if we really want to be authentic, then it can help to learn to accept ourselves for our strengths and imperfections.
Dr. Matthew Welsh J.D., Ph.D
Founder of Spiritual Media Blog
About the Guest Author
Spiritual Media Blog is a website that features guest posts, articles, interviews, and reviews about spirituality, psychology, and inspirational entertainment. Please visit http://www.spiritualmediablog.com for more information.
Dr. Matthew Welsh J.D., Ph.D. is the founder of Spiritual Media Blog. After graduating from law school Dr. Welsh created Spiritual Media Blog to be a source of inspirational content, media, and entertainment. He began his career in Hollywood working for an entertainment agency, the William Morris Agency, and then as a trial lawyer for the Department of Child Services in Indiana. He realized that he was not happy working as a lawyer. So, he quit his job as a lawyer to pursue his calling to become a clinical psychologist and obtained his PhD in Psychology. He now works as a full-time clinical psychologist. Spiritual Media Blog is a creative outlet for his passions related to psychology, spirituality, and inspirational entertainment. His hope for Spiritual Media Blog is that it provides you with content that is practical, inspirational, and entertaining.
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